Yesterday someone advised me that the way I wanted to live my life was wrong. She said that ‘My goal to travel the world for the rest of my life was unrealistic’ and that ‘the real world does not work like that.’ She then proceeded to tell me that ‘She was older and wiser than me and knew better.’
Yesterday I was very annoyed and confused and this woman’s words consumed me. I was stunned that my goals and beliefs in life were questioned by someone I hardly knew.
I took a look at a study made in 2008 at the National Institute of Health which stated that people’s biggest regrets consisted of education and career.
Today I woke with a fresh mind and received some great advice from some amazing people in my life, people who know me and my passions well.
When I asked a very good friend of mine what she thought she stated that she has had similar experiences and concluded very rightly that ‘sometimes when you try to explain something to someone they try to see themselves in that situation and it just doesn’t work because their own fears and concerns come into play.’
I realized that the woman who criticised my goals was not wrong; she had every right to her own views but these things she had said to me were a reflection of her self and her life, not mine. If I did not pursue my goal as a travel writer/ photographer this would be my biggest regret.
I guess I was stunned at the time, stunned that someone could not bring themselves to accept another’s choice in life whether they think it achievable or not. There would be no fun in trying if we did not question our abilities to do what we wished in life against all odds.
I recently stumbled upon this quote which reflects the recent test of my ambition, and it reminded me to continue to aim high. This quote is now one of my favorites. I hope it serves you as it has served me.
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”
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